Guest post: Finding time to write, by Bryan Young

I was absolutely thrilled when on of my oldest friends & fantastic author, Bryan Young, agreed to do a guest post here. Seriously, if you haven’t read his most recent novel, Operation Montauk, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? Dinosaurs, Nazis, a space ship, time travel… oh, and a monkey! 

I returned the favor and did a guest post on his blog on interacting with readers, which you can find here. Bryan’s post on finding time to write can be found below. 

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Janine and I have been friends for a long time, and so when she asked me to do a guest post for her writing blog, I said, “Sure!” With the exclamation point and everything. And she asked me to write about finding time to write. She and I share many things in common, but chief among them is our mutual love of Star Wars and our ability to write quality work while having two of the busiest lives in the galaxy. So it seemed like a natural fit for me to write about finding time to write.

We should start with the most obvious statement in the world: If writing makes you happy, you should be writing. Period. And if your writing is good, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be publishing.

But the biggest stumbling block for people always seems to be, “I don’t have time to write.”

I’ll let you in on a secret: Me neither. I make time.

I wrote and published well over 250,000 words in 2012.

In 2012, I also held a full time job. I had freelance work on top of that. On top of that, I have a family that demands attention. Dates, play dates with the kids, school functions, and on and on and on. I’ve got a gig hosting a pub quiz every week, and that needs to be written as well. I’m as busy or busier than you or anyone you know. And none of that is going to give in 2013. In fact, I’m going to beat this year’s record and publish even more next year.

You’re not too busy to write, you’re simply not prioritizing it.

Repeat that in your head, because you know it’s true: YOU ARE NOT TOO BUSY TO WRITE.

Hell, maybe you should put that on a post it note in plain sight. Write it in your notebook, or wherever else you’ll read it. Because it’s true. You’re not too busy to write.

You want to know how I get so much written? I make sure I write something every day. Seven days a week. Whether it’s a review for Big Shiny Robot!, my column for StarWars.Com, my column in my local alt-wewkly, or on a novel or a short story, I make sure I’m getting something written. I don’t even count the writing for my writing blog (www.bryanyoungfiction.com) or a hundred other spaces I’m invited to write in.You should see my writing journal, too. I fill a moleskin every couple of months full of ideas and I don’t count those words, either. And emails… Sweet Jesus, if I counted my emails, my annual word count would be in the millions…

To help me get the time I need, I get up early. Very early. Before everyone else is awake. Usually, I hit my favorite coffee shop from 6:00 am to 8:00 am, Monday through Friday. That gives me two solid hours, five days a week, to get some productive writing and editing done. At that early in the morning, no one is emailing me or calling me. The family is asleep, so they don’t need anything. Then I head in to work. It’s a perfect plan that fits my schedule and gives me regularity and discipline in my writing.

But that’s not the only thing I’ve done to save time for writing.

I read once that Brian K. Vaughn said that Video Games were just another name for writer’s block. So I cut video games out of my days and that saved loads of time. Occasionally, perhaps once a year or two, I’ll cheat, but the only time I really allow myself a video game is when my kids want to play games with me and I count that as family time.

I’ve also made some changes to my smart phone. It doesn’t ring. It doesn’t vibrate. It doesn’t buzz. It doesn’t check for new emails unless I do it manually. That’s not to say I’m difficult to get ahold of, but my writing isn’t going to be interrupted by a ringing phone. My writing is more important than anyone needing to get ahold of me instantly by phone. And if anyone knows me well, they know they’ll get a speedier, almost instantaneous response, in other ways. Try tweeting me. Or an email. Or all of the above. I’ll almost certainly see it sooner than I’ll look at my phone unless I’m actively using it.

The other thing I do that seems surprising to most people is to have too many projects going on. There’s never a chance of getting writer’s block if I have two stories due for publication, my novel that needs work, the serial I’m starting up, and any other number of things that need to be done. Every now and again it can feel overwhelming, but the joy and satisfaction of crossing a story or assignment off the list is easily outweighed by that mild sense of drowning.

There’s also another sort of person, who has the time to write, but chooses not to out of fear of rejection or fear that they’re not good enough or any of a hundred other excuses they give themselves to stop before they start. Ignore those nagging voices that tell you you can’t, because you can. It doesn’t have to be perfect the first time out, just make the time, sit down, and let the words flow. Eventually they’ll be publishable. I promise.

More than anything, though, what it comes down to is this: Write more and do other stuff less.

You can do it. I know you can. If you say you can’t, you’re lying. To me, to yourself, and to everyone else.

Bryan Young works across many different mediums. He’s written the bestselling comedy novel “Lost at the Con” and the critically acclaimed sci-fi adventure “Operation: Montauk.” As a film producer, his last two films (“This Divided State” and “Killer at Large”) were released by The Disinformation Company and were called “filmmaking gold” by The New York Times. He’s also published comic books with Slave Labor Graphics and Image Comics. He’s a contributor for the Huffington Post and the founder and editor in chief of the geek news and review site Big Shiny Robot! 

 

Thrifty Fashion: Modest is Hottest (and stripes!)

I’ve not hidden the fact that I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS, aka “Mormon”), but it’s also not something I am “in your face” about. It’s just a part of who I am – like curly hair, my family, sneezing in threes, and pretty much anything else that’s integral to my life.

And so it’s natural that just like my personality, colors, patterns, and weather effect my clothing choices, so do my religious beliefs.

I was raised LDS, and I remember my parents always teaching from a very young age to dress appropriately, modestly. When I turned 12 and graduated from “primary” to “Young Womens” I was given a small book “For the Strength of Youth” that further clarified the way we should dress, act, and treat others.

As an adult I’ve tried to maintain these values and standards, though I am human, and do fail at times, especially in my treatment of others. I need to be better about that.

When my husband and I were sealed to each in the temple other (a little while after we were married) we made new covenants to each other & with the lord – one of them being to dress modestly.

So, unless I’m running (or participating in another physical activity, like swimming, etc), I don’t wear anything sleeveless, low cut, short (I stick with knee length), etc. Essentially, like I was taught as a teen, I try to think “Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord’s presence?” That’s a pretty good guideline.

I don’t find this limiting at all, and I don’t think my “fashion sense” has suffered for it either. Though I’m certain my parents disagree with me & my “fashion sense.” 😉

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You might be asking yourself (because I know I’m certainly asking myself), why the heck is this author/Marine/mother/wife writing a fashion blog? Aren’t there like a bajillion fashion blogs out there? Why do we need another?

We probably don’t, and I don’t think I’m a fashionista at all, but apparently some of my friends and family do, and they asked me to do one, soooo… I figured this would be kind of fun to do. So there.

You can see my first post HERE, where I go into the basics of my style & kind of what my shopping “motto” is (never pay full price for anything), and that patience is a virtue (wait 3 years to find a specific pair of $250 Fluevog shoes for $40? Why yes I did…)

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Outfit # 1, Special Agenda? Nope. My friend Ky had just sent me this dress (she no longer wanted it) and I loved it & couldn’t wait to wear it. It was sleeveless, but that was easily solved by layering a black t-shirt under it from Shade Clothing.
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Alice + Olivia maxi-dress, Gift from friend
Ralph Lauren handbag, $15 (thrift store – yes, it’s real)
Darth Vader Penny Blossom by BrightCopperPenny, $7.50
Birkenstock sandals, $6 (thrift store)
Ribbon Necklace made by friend Celtic Ruins Design, $12
Abbey Road watch, anniversary gift from my hubby

Total: $40.50. At full price would have been: approx $1,469.50. Though like $1,000 of that is the purse. I’d NEVER pay that much for a purse! Not even close!

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Outfit #2, Special Agenda? This outfit came from my desire to wear stripes and polka dots together. And since my previous outfit featured stripes & that RL handbag, here’s another!

Vintage dress (circa 1980), $30 (vintage shop in Atlanta)
Wide black belt, $2 (thrift store)
Ballet flats, $10 (amazon.com)
Blood stone necklace on ribbon, $25 (antique shop in Wilmington, NC)
Red Penny Blossom by BrightCopperPenny, $7.50
Ruby earrings, gift from Hubby (he purchased them in Afghanistan on a deployment)
Ralph Lauren handbag, $15 (thrift store – yes, it’s real)
Banana Republic Polkadot tights, $12 (store sale)

Total: $101.50. At full price would have been: approx $1602.50. (again, about $1,000 would have been the purse)

Stripes & Polkadots.
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Wide belt, penny blossom, blood stone, & ruby earrings.
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2012 year in review & some resolutions

I love doing retrospectives like this – it’s a great way to reflect on the year & take stock in my life, etc. It really puts things in perspective.

Often I’ve thought that I had a horrid year, and then when I look at the meme I’m like “oh hey, my year was actually pretty awesome!”

That’s not to say there wasn’t drama – face it, living with a teen(s)… there’s gonna be drama!

1. What did you do in 2012 that you’d never done before?

I’m sure I’ll forget a lot, but I traveled to several countries I’d never been to, published a sequel novel, moved to Washington, DC, won a Disney racing award (twice!), was a guest of honor at a convention, got my coast 2 coast Disney medal, dressed up in a Star Trek suit and pretended I was an away team at Disney World. Met the Speaker of the House (and went to his Christmas party). Flew business class internationally (that was AWESOME), visited the CONGO and watched a Lion hunt a Warthog! Saw Big Bad Voodoo Daddy & Don McLean in concert!

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Thrifty Fashion, a post for Jill

Several weeks ago my friend Jill gently reminded me that I hadn’t done a Thrifty Fashion post in a long while, so I am doing one now for her. 🙂

Happy Christmas everyone!

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You might be asking yourself (because I know I’m certainly asking myself), why the heck is this author/Marine/mother/wife writing a fashion blog? Aren’t there like a bajillion fashion blogs out there? Why do we need another?

We probably don’t, and I don’t think I’m a fashionista at all, but apparently some of my friends and family do, and they asked me to do one, soooo… I figured this would be kind of fun to do. So there.

You can see my first post HERE, where I go into the basics of my style & kind of what my shopping “motto” is (never pay full price for anything), and that patience is a virtue (wait 3 years to find a specific pair of $250 Fluevog shoes for $40? Why yes I did…)

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Outfit # 1, Special Agenda? Nope. I just wanted to be comfortable and warm on this chilly morning.

Anthropologie sweater, $30 (store year end clearance)
Grey blouse, $3 (thrift store)
Anthropologie Purple knit skirt, $25 (store year end clearance)
Purple Penny Blossom by BrightCopperPenny (she makes geeky themed ones too!), $7.50
Tan suede boots, $6 (thrift store)
Bling (necklaces, costume jewelry on sale at Claire’s – yup!), $30

Total: $101.50. At full price would have been: approx $350.


Notes: Nothing much to add other than I really REALLY love this outfit. It’s super duper comfy, and I can wear it for hours. Plus, it’s one of those outfits I just threw together, no planning or anything.

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Outfit #2, Special Agenda? This outfit pretty much came from my desire to wear my cowboy boots. They were a gift from Ron for our 8th anniversary and I love them, and never find enough reasons to wear them. Plus I thought it’d be fun to show the same sweater/jewelry/color theme from the previous post in a different outfit.

Anthropologie sweater, $30 (store year end clearance)
Banana Republic silk dress, $70 (store sale)
Wide black belt, $2 (thrift store)
Lizard skin cowboy boots, $120 (store sale) (8th anniversary gift from my hubby)
Bling (necklaces, costume jewelry on sale at Claire’s – yup!), $30
Paperclip bracelet, $2 (vendor in South Africa)
Anthropologie purse, $25 (store clearance)

Total: $279. At full price would have been: approx $770.

Aaaaaand that’s it for now. I’ll try to be more consistent about posting these Jill. 🙂

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Lastly, need a copy of my books? As it happens you can buy them here.

A guest post from Author, Marianna Roberg

Me (Queen Amidala) and Marianna (Sith Witch) at a Star Wars party I put together right after Episode I came out. Yes – we made our costumes, and yes, we have always been geeks. 😀

Many years ago, when I was 18 (it was in the last century!) I discovered a wonderful thing called “fanfic.” I read and read and got my Star Wars and X-files fix, and in doing so, made friends with a talented young fanfic writer, named Marianna Roberg.

Of course we didn’t know each other by our real names, no, but eventually we chatted a lot more, grew to trust each other, and realized after a while that lo and behold we lived only a few blocks from each other! So of course we had to meet & solidify our friendship.

Then about a year and 1/2 later I graduated from BYU &  I went and joined the Marine Corps, moved to the other side of the country and  we lost touch for a few years. Until once again on a Star Wars forum I saw the handle I recognized so well & bam! Marianna & I were back in touch again.

I was absolutely delighted that she was able to make it out to see me this past October during Crystal Coast Con, and after a bit of talking/catching up, I asked her if she wouldn’t mind sharing some of the challenges/experiences she’s had with her writing/life over the years, and I’m so grateful she was willing to do so.

I’ve always been a fan of Marianna’s writing, so if you are looking for something new to read, please check out her Broomcloset series: http://amzn.com/1475221312

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Not long ago, I visited Janine and her family for a trip to the Crystal Coast Con in North Carolina. I hadn’t seen Janine in way too long, and it was fun to get caught up. While we were talking, a subject very close to me came up. That was of my Lupus, and how it affects me as a writer. She asked me to write a guest blog post about it.

I was fourteen when I was diagnosed with Lupus. I had a severe attack of something called idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura (try saying that one ten times fast!), and my platelet count dropped down to a mere 9000/cc. I was covered from head to toe with little pinpoint bruises called petechiae, and if I’d cut myself even a little, there was a high chance I could bleed to death before getting help. Platelet counts below 10,000 are frequently fatal, I learned later, and can lead to spontaneous hemorrhaging in the brain. To put this in perspective, a normal, healthy person’s count is usually ~150,000-400,000/cc. My blood was more of an orange than a true red whenever they drew it.
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A Writer’s Workshop

We held our 4th annual Writer’s Workshop that my husband and I host in our home. The players change a bit every year, but we’ve have some consistency as well. The original members at this point are me, my husband Ronald T. Garner  and Aaron Allston. Bryan Young & Conley Lyons started joining us the 2nd year & have been permanent fixtures every year since. And my dear friend Maggie Allen joined us for the first time this year – additionally, it was her first workshop ever!

Me & Bryan on our way to the Air & Space museum – workshops aren’t just about tearing up each other’s stories. We have fun too!

This brings me to my first point, why are workshops important?

I was going to write this really insightful post about why all writers need to workshop their stories (even experienced Pro’s like Aaron), but I saw that Bryan beat me to it & did it far more eloquently than I ever could. His full post is here, but I’ll paste some highlights below. http://www.bryanyoungfiction.com/2012/12/the-importance-of-story-workshops.html

“Every year, we all submit between 7k and 10k words of prose and have the others hit us with both barrels of their notes. It’s an all day thing, with at least 5 or 6 people sharing stories and notes around the room. We all come having read all the submissions and we pick one victim…ahem…one writer at a time and we all discuss their piece at length.

And this discussion is frank. There is no pussy-footing around. Sure, we’ll briefly talk about what we liked about certain pieces, but the point of the workshop is to tell your fellows what doesn’t work in their fiction. We’re all friends and have been doing it for a while, so the need to sugarcoat problems is non-existent and we have frequent disagreements and arguments among each other. But it’s liberating.
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Geek Media Expo wrap up

I know I haven’t updated recently – long story short my website was having all sorts of problems, but seems to be working just fine now.

Sooooo right before Halloween I was a guest again at Geek Media Expo (GMX) and it was once again AWESOME.

We took out whole family and on Saturday night the 4 of us dressed up as the Avengers – Captain America, Nikki Fury, Tony Stark, and yours truly as Thor.

The costumes were very well received and I think we may have our Christmas card photo. 🙂

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Hurricane Sandy and a way you can help those who lost everything

Many of you have been asking how my family and I faired during Hurricane Sandy. Well, I am fortunate to report that we did just fine, sustained no damage at all (in fact even the blown away/missing cover for my motorcyle was recovered by a neighbor).

Others were not so fortunate.

Neighbors Lucille Dwyer, right, and Linda Strong embrace after looking through the wreckage of their homes in Breezy Point on October 31, 2012. -Photo by Shannon Stapleton

In addition to all the flooding/ water damage/ power outages going on in New York, hundreds of homes were damaged by fire, and a current count is, I believe, 111 completely destroyed.

A colleague of mine is one of those people who lost everything to Hurricane Sandy. I called earlier today to check in with mutual colleagues and found out that not only did they lose absolutely everything but the clothing on their back, but that there are still people who have been without food and water for three days now.

As a Marine my first instinct is to GO HELP. I want to help so badly! I can’t bear the thought of people suffering. It’s a big reason I joined the Marine Corps, and I’m glad I’ve had opportunity to assist in humanitarian aid/disaster relief (HA/DR) in the past.

But my current place is to stay here, in Washington, DC, and do my job, while other Marines help in NY.  And much as I dislike “not helping” I need to remind myself that doing my job here IS important, and IS helping (because I often get asked, yes I’m still an active duty Marine – I’m currently stationed in Washington, DC).

But I still want to help.

There are literally thousands of charitable organizations you can donate your time, blood, items, and money to help with HA/DR. Pick one you like, and go for it! Seriously, even if you only have $5 to spare, that’s huge – every little bit counts!

If you don’t have a charitable organization you prefer, I’ll be happy to share one where 100% of your donation will go to Humanitarian Aid/Disaster Releif. Not one cent goes to admin or anyone’s pockets. It will all go to helping others. I don’t know how many other charitable organizations can make that claim.

As I’ve mentioned in the past, I’m a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (aka, I’m a Mormon). Many of you know that we have been at the forefront whenever there is a need for HA/DR & with Hurricane Sandy, it’s no different.

Each year, millions of men, women, and children are impacted by war, floods, earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes, and other disasters. In these desperate circumstances, quick response is often the difference between life and death.

The LDS Church continually gathers donations of food, clothes, medical supplies, and relief items. The resources are then pre-positioned in key locations for shipping on short notice. Because of this preparedness, the LDS Church is able to respond immediately in times of emergency.

When the timing of response is critical, international relief agencies have come to rely on the LDS Church for food and materials.

In addition to providing materials, the LDS Church also helps with funds and volunteers. Volunteers often make the most difference in restoring hope in the lives of those in crisis. A recent example is the more than 10,000 days of labor donated by Church members to assist victims of Hurricane Katrina in Louisiana and surrounding states.

From 1985 to 2009, the LDS Church has shipped 61,892 tons of food and 139,998 tons of other supplies to more than 150 countries. In 2009, the LDS Church provided assistance in response to the tsunami in Samoa, typhoons in the Philippines, the Padang, Indonesia earthquake, conflict in Pakistan, and 98 other disasters.

So, if you want to donate money for the relief efforts, members of the LDS church can donate directly through tithing slips, but I asked & found out that there is a website where non-members (or members) can donate as wellhttp://www.ldsphilanthropies.org/

100% of the donation goes to humanitarian aid, there is no administration fee whatsoever. Not a dime of donated money goes to the LDS church itself. Also, the link allows people to designate where they want their money to go (ie, specifically disaster relief).

I tested the website out earlier today, and was able to make a donation within literally 1 minute of visiting the website.

Remember, even just $1 could make a world of difference in helping someone who has truly lost EVERYTHING but the clothes on their back.

So please, consider donating to a charitable organization of your choice, and help those who lost everything to Hurricane Sandy. God bless.

http://www.ldsphilanthropies.org/

(AP Photo/Mark Lennihan)

Crystal Coast Con wrap up


Crystal Coast Con literally felt like going home.

For about 9 years my husband and I lived all over eastern NC around the MCAS Cherry Point, New River, and Camp Lejeune areas. We lived in New Bern, Swansboro, Kinston, and then finally Emerald Isle for a time.

In fact, I wrote the bulk of War of the Seasons: The Human while staring at the beach & hearing the waves crash from my window at Emerald Isle.

So, when I got invited to a Con that was less than a mile from my old home I was super thrilled to go!

It was so great to see so many old friends (the Carolina 501st Garrison for starters), and make new friends (the talented band Saving Abel was there), and get to spend some time with one of my oldest friends, the talented author Mariana Roberg.

On the whole this little con was full of heart, great fans, and of course my beloved Marines. HOORAH!

I’m glad I was invited & I’m glad I went.

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Dragon*Con, Thrifty Fashion, & I have an audio book!

Oh hey, GUESS WHAT? War of the Seasons: the Human has an AUDIOBOOK version!

And it’s read by the amazing, wonderful, talented, Patricia Albrecht!

So if you like audio books, here you go!

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